Advancing Awareness
To Get More Love In Your Life
The Psychology, Technology, Neuroscience and Spirituality of
Reducing Unhappiness by Becoming Progressively Loving

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Using the Word "BILAMAP" As a Mental Reminder

The brain needs something to think about, almost all the time, unless you have figured out how to tame your brain with meditation, by learning how to have and stay with a quiet mind. During normal wakefulness, you can maintain a quiet mind by being in Pure Awareness.

Otherwise your brain wants to think. Since we are talking about how to replace negative types of thinking, you must have some positive thinking with witch to replace your negative thoughts. As a quick fix, a quick replacement, you can simply repeat the word "BILAMAP" to yourself. And as you let that word repeat silently, over and over, you can spend some of that time just reminding yourself to BeInLoveAsMuchAsPossible.

Now that you have a positive replacement (BILAMAP), let's look at and begin to recognize your good thinking from your bad thinking. Bad thinking is the type of thinking that makes you feel uneasy or bad or unhappy. But not all thinking that makes you feel these ways is bad.

Positive thinking includes when you are thinking intentionally and productively, such as when you are deciding what to do, generating new or creative ideas, identifying an issues that need attention, creating a plan, carrying out the plan, socializing and learning. You will usually be in positive thinking when you are fully engage in carrying out an activity or task. Of course, this positive thinking could turn negative if allow Brain Wander to occur while you aire suppose to be engaging in positive thinking.

Negative thinking is when your brain sends you a message that you should be aware of a problem when it is unnecessary to be aware, right here and now, of a possible or potential problem. Negative thinking also includes reviewing plans or problems over and over again, for no real good reason. When are you drawn to worrying about things that don't even exist yet? What about dwelling on how you are right and the other person is wrong, and being willing to have a fight to try and prove to them that you are right. Is this usually productive? What about time when you are not thinking about anything particularly important and when you really don't have anything to think about. See Survival Thinking for further clarification on unproductive, destructive, negative thinking.

Build an awareness of when you have this Free-Thinking-Time. Keep noticing when you shift into Free-Thinking-Time and what kind of unnecessary or unwanted thinking you do. After you are familiar with your Free-Thinking-Time, start replacing it with the word "BILAMAP".

From then on, you can use the word "BILAMAP" as a kind of daily "mantra". A mantra is something you simply repeat to yourself, quietly in your mind, as a way of calming or focusing yourself. By repeating it and reminding yourself what it stands for, it will focus your awareness in a loving direction. It is recommended that you use it as often as possible,

When you feel like you have been successful in having "BILAMAP" regularly floating around in consciousness, to be used whenever necessary, you can then begin to use the other two Mindful tools. From now on, repeating "BILAMAP" will always be a tool you can use to simply divert your unhappy attention.

Finally, a note about the AMAP part of BILAMAP. Do not underestimate the power of AMAP. As Much As Possible may mean that there are times when you are very aggressive in the interest of love. Love does not allow itself to be trampled by unloving behavior. Love is not weak or passive. Under such circumstances you must be aware of the next loving step in aggressiveness, which is, "do as little harm as possible". BILAMAP does not mean that you are without your full compliment of human thoughts and feelings, if you need them and want to use them. It does mean that you make choices based on loving principles you have chosen to adopt.

Other Activities Which Will Help Keep B I L A M A P In
Conscious Awareness

* Learn to Be and to Indwell

Indwell: To be focused inwardly, with mind-body awareness, in intentional creation of thought or stillness of mind. Both of these conditions are states of being Mindful.

*Be of service to others. The simplest and sometimes hardest way to do this is to let others know that you care about them.

*Mentally rehearse telling people in your life that you love them until you actually do it.

*Spend time in nature. Walk quietly, sit quietly, observe intensely. Pay attention to what you love.

*Show love to your children as much as possible, even when they're adults.

*If you are uncomfortable with others, discover why. If it is only with a few that have hurt you, it is advisable that you work towards a form of forgiveness.

Three forms of forgiveness.

A. Exoneration.

B. Letting go of the pain while approaching in the future with caution until trust is rebuilt.

C. Release yourself from the pain while maintaining as superficial a relationship as needed to protect yourself (this may mean having no relationship with that person from whom you have released)

*Be poised to always forgive your lover.

*Honor the force of Restoration. Acknowledge that there is an ever present force which exerts a loving energy, by maintaining the planet in an ever steady state of Restoration. If you tap into this source, you can tap into the ever present flow of love. Feel the love of the force. Be the force of love.

*BILAMAP does not lead to passivity. Consequently, one does not allow other forces to triumph over love.

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Inspire love within yourself and let it transfer to the world.

When you are practiced in exuding love from within, you will see how these good feelings can be spread to others.

Be apart of a creative culture which chooses love.

Only through Love will we find lasting peace with each other.

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